{"id":716,"date":"2016-02-10T21:28:12","date_gmt":"2016-02-11T02:28:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sallybsedgwick.com\/conversation\/?p=716"},"modified":"2016-02-12T12:33:34","modified_gmt":"2016-02-12T17:33:34","slug":"dream-an-update","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.spiritmoxie.com\/conversation\/dream-an-update\/","title":{"rendered":"Dream\u2014an update"},"content":{"rendered":"

There is a saying, \u201cbe careful what you wish for.\u201d In early January, I challenged you to share your dreams for the new year instead of the usual resolutions or goals. And I said we would hold each other accountable.<\/span><\/p>\n

My dreams were of \u201congoing support\u201d and \u201cunexpected adventures,\u201d with other words for the same things being \u201ccommunity\u201d and \u201cfreedom,\u201d respectively. I dutifully began looking for a plane ticket and talking about where I might move if I decided to do so. Meanwhile, because I had given up my car some time ago, I still had the adventures of riding the bus, dancing with time, and general exploration. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"LaughAs part of the last, I started following Mike Dooley\u2019s The Universe Talks<\/a> “Infinite Possibilities Project,\u201d a 30-day challenge that I wanted to witness because I thought something similar might be cool for Spirit Moxie sometime. So, although I had just committed in our last conversation<\/a> to not<\/i> having goals for the new year, I dutifully followed the day 1 instruction of the Infinite Possibilities Project to list at least 5 goals. These I dutifully posted on Instagram<\/a> and they included such things as \u201claugh more\u201d and \u201cfigure out if I\u2019m moving.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Then, just like in the best adventure stories, on the morning of January 12th, there was a knock on the door. I was handed a three-day eviction notice. My landlord had been foreclosed on and the apartment (which is a condo) sold. I actually knew earlier that it had been sold, but I blithely thought I could stay there until my lease ran out in late spring. \u201cOh,\u201d the man delivering the notice said, \u201cjust call the lawyer listed to figure out what\u2019s really going on.\u201d So I did. \u201cOh,\u201d they said, \u201cthat just means that after three days they\u2019ll start real eviction proceedings.\u201d What? The people managing my apartment checked with their lawyer. The documents I had received were legal, and my lease was not effective, as it was a contract with the previous owner. I called a friend who is a real estate lawyer. She made a couple of phone calls; all this was new to her, but yes, everything was legal.<\/span><\/p>\n

OK, then. So, if this was opportunity rather than a crises, what next? I hate packing and moving: the process rather than being in a new space with new opportunities. And I have a lot of stuff. It allows me to entertain others, which I love. And the love includes cooking, a joy, and maybe my only craft. My stuff provides entertainment for me as well (did I mention books?) and is part of my personal history.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mistyBut I soon realized this same stuff was keeping me stuck and preventing me from those \u201cunexpected adventures\u201d I wanted. I could move across town one more time and seriously miss the incredible view that is literally one wall of my apartment. It\u2019s always changing. I am looking at it now as I type, unexpectedly misted with February snow. White roofs. The river.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what if by following adventure, I find that it really does seem right to live in Seattle? Or what if friends or family suddenly need support? What about a year in another country such as Thailand? And those are just random ideas that have come up in the past few weeks. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cStuff,\u201d however, makes all of this hard. My kids don\u2019t want the dishes and don\u2019t have room for more furniture. Plus, I learned when I was working in Chicago that if there is an Ikea<\/a> anywhere near you, you can furnish a place for one to two thousand dollars. Cheaper than moving if you give up antiques and china!<\/span><\/p>\n

\"IMG_3844\"Exploring options, I found an auctioneer who says he will take everything I want to get rid of. Today, one of his people came and packed all my glassware and china. Yesterday, I sent a chair that had been a wedding present to my ex-husband via our older son. And so on. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, for those of you who know me, I should be out of the apartment sometime next week. And yes, I have somewhere to stay, one of several offers. I’ve been overwhelmed with love and support. So “ongoing support” – check. “Unexpected adventures” – check.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what does this have to do with you? One person on Instagram said, “if you finish tidying up, do you want to come do mine too?\u201d I don’t think my version would work for her or for very many people because these are my dreams and yours are, well, yours. <\/span><\/p>\n

So if you dreamt of having more friends, how is that showing up for you? Did you talk about writing more? Well, are you? But a more crucial question is to look at what you dreamt and ask, “what is underneath?”\u00a0 <\/span>What do you receive if your dreams come true? Is it scary? Exciting? Peaceful? <\/span><\/p>\n

Look around. Did you hear a knock on the door? Did you answer?<\/span><\/p>\n

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\nAll photos by Spirit Moxie.<\/p>\n

From the top:
\n“The” Instagram list
\nApartment View (February 9, 2016)
\nBoxes of glassware and china<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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